Learning To Like Ourselves
The messages we receive from other people and from the media are largely negative. Bad news gets more attention than good news.
into our day-to-day lives as well. If we admire some aspect of ourselves we are seen to be
conceited. If we say negative things about ourselves, people will console us.
We were rewarded for misery since our childhood ; we are offered candy or hugs when we are unhappy.
No rewards for our laughter and happiness! Some people like the attention and
sympathy. So they purposely distort the facts and tell others all the troubles
and miseries they have. After some time, their sub-conscious mind will start believing what they
are saying and start acting accordingly. Soon they will have reasons to be unhappy
for real. Do not get into this trap. See the positive rather than the negative in you.
Optimism and a positive attitude promote good health. Research
shows that the optimistic persons have healthier immune system. Pessimistic
expectations breed negative experiences.
How can you incorporate these into your own life? Be grateful. No matter how bad things
might appear, you can see a silver lining. There is someone who has worse problems.
Misery loves companions. Reach out to
such people. This will help both parties.
Make a conscious effort towards finding good things. As far as possible stay
away from pessimistic people. Don't get drawn into other
people's misery. Catch yourself if you are whining and stop. Your
stress levels will benefit immediately.
We all can make a deliberate choice between being negative or positive, happy or
unhappy. Say and believe in the following: